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No More Invasive Questions: Why I’m Done Talking to Men Who Ask About My ‘Body Count’

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Fed up with men asking about my "body count." It's invasive, perpetuates harmful stereotypes, and devalues women. Time to demand respect.

As a woman, I have often been asked about my sexual history, including my “body count,” by men. And I’m here to say that enough is enough. From now on, if a man asks me about my “body count,” I will immediately stop talking to him.

First and foremost, asking about a woman’s “body count” is a deeply inappropriate and invasive question. It implies that a woman’s sexual history is up for public discussion and that her worth as a person is somehow tied to the number of sexual partners she has had. This is not only insulting but also completely untrue.

Moreover, this question is often used to shame and stigmatize women who have had multiple sexual partners, while men are celebrated for the same behavior. This double standard is not only unfair but also perpetuates harmful stereotypes and sexist attitudes towards women.

For me personally, being asked about my “body count” is a huge red flag. It shows me that the man in question is more concerned with my sexual history than getting to know me as a person. It also suggests that he may have a skewed perspective on women’s sexual agency and may not respect my boundaries and autonomy.

So, from now on, I refuse to engage with men who ask me about my “body count.” I refuse to let this invasive and disrespectful question be a part of my interactions with men. If a man is truly interested in getting to know me, he should be asking about my interests, passions, and ambitions – not my sexual history.

As a woman, I believe that it is time for us to take a stand against the harmful and inappropriate practice of asking about a woman’s “body count.” We should not be shamed or stigmatized for our sexual history, and we should not be made to feel like our worth as individuals is tied to the number of sexual partners we have had. It’s time for us to demand respect and dignity from the men in our lives, and to refuse to engage with anyone who cannot provide that.


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